4 types of wealth


Not sure if social status is really any wealth. A better measure of social wealth would be how connected , or how much of an ability to connect you have. If you are completely empty on the inside , unable to feel empathy , or connect with others , but are only flaunting to attract envy. How is it really wealth.

There is scientific proof that being better connected/ having more friends leads to a better life. On the contrary, seeking attention from others either by flaunting wealth or other assets , can become addictive and could cause you to have a weaker character , not to mention it could drain your “Financial wealth”

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Depression hates a moving target.

“Depression Hates a Moving Target: How Running With My Dog Brought Me Back From the Brink” by Nita Sweeney is a memoir that explores the author’s journey of overcoming depression through running with her dog. Here are 10 key lessons from the book:

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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

“How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish offers practical strategies for parents and caregivers to communicate effectively with children, fostering mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation. Here are key lessons from the book

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Why do people still use the real estate agents.

I am not a fan of the real estate business as a whole. It added value back in 1800’s and 1900’s when the real estate agents rode horses to “spread-the-word”. However today it doesn’t really add any value. On the contrary , agents sometimes “work” with home inspection, small financing business etc.. And we all know whose interest they have in mind when they do that.

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Growth mindset in kids, how to praise

The research paper I'd like to discuss briefly is a paper from Dr. Carol Dweck and her colleague, Claudia Mueller. The title of the paper is "Praise for intelligence can undermine children's motivation and performance." It might be surprising that praise for intelligence can undermine motivation and performance. Many people probably believe that genuine feedback about being good at something would improve performance and motivation. However, research suggests otherwise.




The study conducted by Dweck and Mueller involved over a hundred children who were given either intelligence-based feedback or effort-based feedback, or were part of a control group. Intelligence feedback focused on labels like "smart" or "talented," while effort feedback was tied to actions and choices. The study found that children who received intelligence-based feedback tended to choose easier tasks to maintain praise, while those who received effort-based feedback were more likely to tackle more challenging problems.

In both cases, these children are essentially attached to the praise. But in the case of intelligence feedback, the kids are really just trying to reinforce being told that they're smart or talented, as opposed to reinforcing the engagement in the activity that got them the praise

This indicates that praising intelligence may lead children to seek easy tasks to maintain their perceived intelligence, while praising effort encourages them to take on challenges and improve. The study also found that performance decreased for children praised for intelligence but increased for those praised for effort.

This highlights the importance of feedback in shaping behavior, and suggests that praising effort rather than intelligence is more effective in improving performance. It's crucial for parents and teachers to be mindful of the type of feedback they give to children, as it can have a significant impact on their motivation and performance. Sample effective effort based praise: hey, you really tried hard and that's great,